I’m a slightly insane stay-at-home mum of 3 boys, who were – at the time of me writing this – aged 3 and under. I spend my days making fart jokes, chasing nudie butts after their baths and cleaning handprints off the TV. Some days it’s bliss and other days…well, some days it’s bliss.
My name is Carmen. I am married to Khye, a man who is selfless, caring, silly and over-the-top loving. I feel so grateful for this man, who I have been lucky enough to be with since the age of 14. Our boys are Mark, Toby and Daniel (DJ) and they are incredible. Each one of them are amazing little men for totally different reasons. Marky is my sensitive soul. Toby is my cheeky adventurer. Daniel is…well, he’s still a baby but his smile lights up the room and I can just tell he’s going to be a very special little guy. Our cat Khaleesi is sometimes aggressively loved, though I know she in turn, aggressively loves the neighbours and all the food they spoil her with.
I have battled against Post Natal Depression with all three of my children. My battle isn’t over yet, and I will battle against anxiety for the rest of my life, but I’m definitely getting stronger as I go. I am also a Sleeve Sister. I underwent weight loss surgery and now have the Gastric Sleeve. It’s not the easy way out. People who think this usually just don’t understand it. My hope is for people to learn what a huge, life-changing decision this surgery is, and to support those who undergo it. We are trying to better our lives.
I try to be open, honest, and raw. I know this may upset some people, and for that I am sorry, but I need to tell the truth. The only way we can get through this crazy life is by finding people who we can relate to, and how can I find those people if I’m not honest with who I am? How can we all make people out there, suffering with PND, feel less ashamed if no one speaks about it? Everything is a little bit easier when you know you’re not alone.
There shouldn’t be shame. There should be celebration. Celebrate every day you manage to fight it. Celebrate every day with your children. Celebrate the little wins.
This blog is my release, my truth, my heart.